At Oldshoremore Retreats, we believe in the power of self-compassion and mindfulness to foster healing and growth. One powerful tool we recommend is the "Look in the Mirror" technique, as described in John Purkiss's book, The Power of Letting Go. This simple yet profound exercise can help build self-confidence and promote positive self-talk. When adapted for processing past trauma, it can become a cornerstone of your healing journey.
What is the "Look in the Mirror" Technique?
The "Look in the Mirror" technique involves standing in front of a mirror, making eye contact with yourself, and speaking positive affirmations. This practice helps to establish a deeper connection with yourself and reinforce positive beliefs.
Steps to Use the Technique for Trauma Processing
Create a Safe Space: Find a quiet, comfortable place where you feel secure and won't be disturbed. This is your time to focus on yourself.
Ground Yourself: Before you begin, take a few deep breaths to center yourself. You might also want to have a grounding object nearby, such as a favourite piece of jewellery or a comforting item.
Gentle Observation: Stand in front of the mirror and make gentle eye contact with yourself. Acknowledge any feelings that arise without judgment. It's okay if emotions come up; allow yourself to feel them.
Affirmations with Compassion: Speak positive affirmations that focus on self-compassion and healing. For example:
"I am safe now."
"I am worthy of love and healing."
"I am strong and resilient."
Acknowledge the Past: If you feel ready, gently acknowledge the trauma. You might say something like, "I recognise the pain I have experienced, and I honour my journey towards healing."
Visualise Support: Imagine yourself surrounded by supportive and loving people, or even envision your past self being comforted by your present self. This can help reinforce feelings of safety and support.
End with Self-Care: After the exercise, engage in a self-care activity. This could be anything that makes you feel nurtured, such as taking a warm bath, listening to calming music, or spending time in nature.
Why This Technique Works
The "Look in the Mirror" technique works by fostering a compassionate and supportive relationship with yourself. By regularly affirming positive beliefs and acknowledging your journey, you can start to internalise these messages and improve your self-esteem and overall outlook. This practice can be particularly powerful for those processing past trauma, as it helps to create a sense of safety and self-acceptance.
Final Thoughts
Healing from trauma is a deeply personal journey, and it's important to find techniques that resonate with you. The "Look in the Mirror" technique is one of many tools that can support your healing process. Remember, it's okay to seek guidance from a therapist if you find the emotions overwhelming.
At Oldshoremore Retreats, through our Intensive Healing Retreats we're here to support you every step of the way.